Let’s be really honest with yourself right now and ask the question again.
Are you thriving in life or are you just surviving?
If we are thriving we are eager for each day. We are grateful for what makes up the content of our life. We notice things like the wonders of the natural world, like the bees and bugs pollinating away and the myriad of ways plants burst in vitality after rain.
When we are thriving there is space in our day even if it’s full to the brink with activity and commitments. We are inclined to assist and help others before seeking things for ourselves, yet self-care is the highest priority.
We notice the things our partner does for us and appreciate them all. We celebrate and feel blessed to experience their highest and are ready to receive without expectation. Their lowest is noticed and observed. And if required we are prepared to initiate a courageous conversation to express ourselves and to listen fully to them.
When we thrive we seem to be in a flow and things come easily to us. Everything seems to unfold within perfect synchronicity. There’s flashes of inspiration that we eagerly follow, or wisely shelve or percolate for a future point. We notice when we get out of balance in any area of our life and take steps to rebalance.
We look towards the future with ideas and dreams that serve many. Yet we are unattached to these dreams unfolding in any particular way or timeframe. We are even unattached to it materialising at all.
We know that we are enough with or without needing to actualise the dreams or chase more “things”.
In short, to thrive is to live in the now – the ever present moment of life.
Lets contrast this with Survival
Survival is fraught with stress and struggle, of achievement and failure. It’s a place of exhaustion and pleasing, judging and guilt. Life is never enough when we are in survival mode and neither are we. We see only what’s missing from our life. It’s heavy and tiring to be constantly trying and striving to get that one step ahead.
Often when we are just surviving through life we spend a lot of time in our heads revisiting the past or being fearful of the future. We try to control things and manipulate people and situations to our own advantage to save face or to look good. We are prisoners to other people’s opinions about us and we compare ourselves to others almost incessantly. Often we have no idea we are doing it.
Survival mode is a constant and sticky trap, a sludge of ever present struggle.
My Message To You:
If you can relate to this in any way then my purpose in exploring this with you today is to pass on a message. My aim is help you towards understanding that it is possible to move out of survival and towards thriving. And I would like to inspire you to take some form of action today.
I can say this with full authenticity because I have made this journey myself (to learn more about my journey visit my YouTube clip here). And it’s not as a result of anything outside of myself that I am thriving. It’s because I have found a place inside of self-love. And when I get sucked in to any of my remaining mind traps and fall out of Love I have the awareness and skills to release the mind trap holding my awareness. The natural consequence from doing the inner work and finding the release is Love.
So I know that if I can do this, so can you.
If I can move myself out of self-loathing and suicidal places, to this space of joyful thriving I know that you can too. All you need is willingness.
That’s only one decision away.
The decision to find a new way of being.
Once that decisions is made from a deep inner place all sorts of possibilities arise that previously couldn’t be seen.
You’ll be drawn to just the right book, podcast or class. A teacher of some kind will cross your path. You’ll discover a new therapy or therapist that you’ve not tried. You’ll meet someone who inspires you passionately. A close friend or family member will say something that releases you from some form of bind between you. Insight as to what you’ve been thinking and believing will come.
Is this speaking to a part of you in some way? Did you really need this message today and is it time to take that action you’ve had in the back of your head for a while now?
And if you need some more ideas for where to place your new found willingness try these:
- Decide to drink 2lt of water a day minimum for 30 days (you’ll be amazed at how much better you feel with a hydrated body!).
- Learn how to let go of tensions and stress (aka relax!). Perhaps learn a breathing technique that switches the body out of flight and fight mode in to rest and digest. And do this whilst resting your feet up the wall (check out this video for instructions).
- Move that body! An inactive body feels sludgy and floppy and this creates thoughts of the same nature. Moving our body, such as in walking 20-40mins daily, moves the stuck energy in our muscles and joints and aids in the releases of feel good chemicals known as endorphins.
- Bring a practice of meditation in to your life.
- Learn about the inner world – yours in particular. Read a personal development book or listen to an audio. Seek out that therapist (check out Wellness Gateway and Natural Therapy Pages ).
- Switch off. Detox from social media, tv and streaming devices. Once the addiction to the device has been broken you’ll notice how much less you compare yourself. A massive amount of negativity that’s not your own will now no longer be absorbed by you. And you’ll have more time available to be present to yourself and others.
- Get out in nature. It’s an incredible healer and the natural vibe will lift yours simply by being out in it (but watch for the one who grumbles about weather, flies – well anything really. Leave that part of you at home.
(If you need more specific guidance on how to transform yourself feel free to book a session here).
So I truly hope this has helped move you forward in some way.
YOU. CAN. DO. THIS.
Jo Solomon is a Soul Focused Psychotherapist trained in Mindfulness & Meditation, NLP, Time Line Therapy and Hypnosis, and Hatha Yoga. She’s on a devoted journey in to Self-Awareness and sees clients in person and by phone from She Oaks, Victoria. She also runs weekly beginner yoga classes in Maude, Victoria. Learn more about his here.